5 Ways to Hack Your ADHD and Use it To Your Benefit. Plus what’s so great about this diagnosis.

Today we are going to talk about ADHD. Having ADHD can be a positive. It’s something that makes us able to bounce from idea to idea, task to task, and handle a lot at once.

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Many ancient tribes revered what are suspected to be their ADHD members because they were the ones who found new hunting lands, water sources, and were fierce warriors. 

By nature people with ADHD are often risk takers and willing to go beyond the boundaries others feel contained by. 

The ADHD person forgets they are there or why they exist if it doesn’t make sense to them, before they know it they’ve gone off the beaten path just because they saw something interesting. 

This is still true today it’s just in the classroom, on the work project, or when cooking a meal. Unfortunately many of us were shamed for our inability to stick with a project or task, sit still, stop interrupting, and having lots of ideas at one time. 

ADHD is about how the brain processes information1. In the ADHD brain, parts of our brain run a little different than other parts. This makes it hard to concentrate and focus. We bounce from idea to idea sometimes without even noticing it. Here are 5 ways to hack your ADHD and make it work for you3.

First let’s look at impulsivity.

For many with ADHD they are impulsive2. On one hand this is great. We spring into action and aren’t afraid to take risks, however when we are meeting our partner’s boss and we impulsively comment on their outfit without thinking about it first we might find ourselves in trouble. Part of learning to work with our impulsivity is having a few tools for us. 

First notice your own pattern. When and how does your impulsivity show up? Notice which foods make you more antsy, how impulsive you are if you haven’t slept well, and how much movement you need to feel calmer inside. 

My experience with clients learning this path is impulsivity is a product of other things that we can shift to regulate more effectively. These are things like sleep, exercise, dietary choices, and social relationships. Doesn’t mean impulsivity completely goes away, the impulsive ability to shift our attention and focus quickly is a gift in some regards, but we want to work with it rather than be a slave to it. 

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Second, Distractibility

The ADHD brain is great at this one. We can be doing one project and suddenly be doing another. We look out the window and start thinking about the tree and then the leaf and then wonder about the root system. The tree next to it and then trees around the world. This can be an amazing skill for putting together abstract and unthought-of-yet patterns and concepts, not so good when you just have to finish and get something done. 

For many of us we don’t realize that working with our brains is better than trying to be like others. As a result of struggles to focus we often procrastinate. We can’t figure out where to start so we don’t, we know if we wait a minute we’ll be thinking about something else anyway. Often the procrastination is about having enough stimulation so that we can focus. 

The ADHD brain needs stimulation to get things going. It needs stimulation to actually focus on one thing. So having music on, dancing a minute, watering the plants, walking in circles around the house for a bit, studying at the bar are all ways we work to build in stimulation so that our brains have enough to focus on. Then it makes it easier to get started. Most of us weren’t taught how to do this. We were told to slow down or to sit still which is the exact opposite of actually helping us focus and learn. 

Third, let’s move.

For people without ADHD what we do seems stressful and overwhelming – our fidgeting, our looking around, our fast speech or speed when we walk. But for us it is a way to get our bodies engaged and help our brains slow down enough to focus. We are giving the brain more information at one time to help it have things to do so we can concentrate. 

Many of us are what is called a kinesthetic learner. We need movement to learn and we live our lives very embodied. We find this all-in sensory experience to be enjoyable and are confused why others wouldn’t want to get moving, go do stuff, or use their hands to make something happen.

Rely on the body to help you ground your thoughts. You might need to tap your toe inside your shoe, or wiggle your hand, stand on your toes so you can slightly bounce. These small movements do not need to be large or distracting to others, in fact working to make them smaller may help you focus more. The extra stimulation helps you slow down a bit and decide if you should say that thing that’s on the tip of your tongue. Feel free to apply a little pressure to that tongue until you are ready to speak … just don’t hurt yourself.

Movement is your medicine. Make sure you don’t skip your workouts. Movement is a friend of those with ADHD. It helps focus the body and mind in rhythm. 

When you have made sure to get your workouts and movement practices in, you will be more able to enjoy a calmer experience throughout the day. For ADHD we often need a combination of movements from fast to slow and back again, we need compound movements, we need a variety of exercises every week, and we usually get a little bored with slow yoga and machine weights. Often doing a quick HITT cardio blast right before weights can help us get our head in the game and give just enough focus so our weight training session is optimized. 

Movement is your medicine. Don’t skip taking your daily dose.

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With all the unique things about ADHD, many do not know how to communicate their needs to family and friends, teachers and co-workers.

Our fourth hack is learning to communicate more clearly.

We do not know how to express ourselves clearly because our thoughts and words get tripped up in so many thoughts at once, details of the story we can’t figure out how to let go of because we use them to make sense of things, and we don’t always operate with a great filter. 

Communicating with ADHD can be hard. Often thoughts come into our head and out of our mouth in the same breath.

Effective communication is all about knowing your audience and being clear in your requests and statements. This is often hard for the ADHD brain where we feel like there are so many thoughts, colors, images, and items to explain what we are really thinking and feeling. We think we are eliminating a lot … others’ experience of our detail says otherwise. 

We often express using our hands, remember movement is our friend, and this can be distracting or inappropriate depending on the place and time. 

You want to learn your own communication style. Are you an expressive person or someone who speaks in bullet points? Do you want to have everyone be friends and get along or are you someone who is all about the details of the project? It is important to figure out your communication style strength and then learn about the others. This helps make you effective shifting your communication output to match the other person. Sometimes this means we do a little of ours and theirs to be effective and feel heard. Other times we can just send that email in their style. 

Another big thing for the ADHD communicator is to start learning to notice when others are tuning you out. Many of us have been there where the other person has that glossy-eyed look and we’ve been talking for how long? We have no idea. 

How many times have we interrupted? 

How high has our energy risen as we’ve become more excited about the topic? 

Did we shut down the other person with these pieces of our experience? 

We have no clue.

As you get better at noticing this you can get better at turn taking. Then use the movements to help you stay focused on the other person’s words and concepts. 

If it’s hard to stay focused on what the other person is saying it may be time to take a short break. Walk around the office, excuse yourself for the bathroom, go get more food at the dinner party, move to a new group of people to introduce yourself to. 

Sometimes we just need to shift our focus for a short time to be ready to launch back into an intense or long discussion. 

Fifth, consider time.

For ADHD time often runs on a different schedule than other people’s concept of time. That’s ok, however living in a world of linear time means you have to figure out how to work within that world too. 

You’ll want to set some timers on a day you aren’t rushed and get a true gauge of how long things take for you. 

How long does it really take you to get ready for work? 

How long to really read through that report? 

How much time to you really need to get out the door? 

Often people with ADHD take longer to complete things. The beauty is, it is because they are noticing a lot of other things other people are not seeing, thinking, or hearing.They are good at noticing. Problem, all that noticing takes brain power and makes it hard to remain focused on the task of getting out the door for your morning commute. 

Of course that’s just the time you remember where you put that shirt you wanted to wear today, but couldn’t find, so now you go to get it and low and behold find the shoe you were looking for last week. What luck! 

However all that treasure hunting is not going to get you out the door on time. Once you have an accurate gauge on how much time it really takes you to accomplish your tasks, then we need to plan your schedule around those accurate times. 

Make sure you consider transition times and transportation timing. Often these get forgotten about, It’s good to add in some “time padding” around every item just to allow yourself some joy in noticing your environment. 

All those hacks to say if you have ADHD you need some structure4

However, ADHD folks often hate structure because it is so hard to stick to. They tend to create rigid structures based on how the rest of the world would like them to be and then fail miserably at them. 

For a person with ADHD we can build flexible structure. We have a couple of morning routines, evening wind downs, and daily commutes we know fit within our time needs. We can stick to the timing and the process but change up the actions. This can help make sure we stay on track and focused on creating the life we want, while working with our gifts and helping ourselves stay away from our pitfalls. 

When we approach our mental health from a place of acceptance, we can work with what we have. 

We can use our gifts for our benefit and strengthen our weaknesses. 

We can make sure to choose the right environments for us and say no to activities we know will be disastrous given the way our brains work. 

When we are clear about what we need to be successful we can communicate those needs and behaviors with acceptance and joy to our loved ones and help them work with us rather than against us. 

So today take stock of what is working, what is not, and begin to accept yourself just as you are. Then you can decide which areas you need to focus on to improve upon your current situation and build better patterns for the success you want to experience. 

If you are interested in learning more about how to thrive with ADHD click the link below to read about psychology and physiology or check out our upcoming program for Women with ADHD and hack the way your mind and body create health from the inside out. 

I want to help you work on changing your life one small step at a time. 

If there is something you’d like to see more of in the psychology and physiology realm reach out. I love to create more videos that help people take control of their lives or at least their perspective of how life is going. 

Small changes overtime build …. health from the inside out. 

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If you are a woman with ADHD struggling to take action in your life, don’t know where to start, or want a guide. Join us for our 30 day Women and ADHD program. We run this program throughout the year and focus on specific needs women with ADHD have. Guys we are working to build one out for you too. 

This program is all about owning what’s great about ADHD. We’ll address the usual difficulties like impulsivity, lack of follow through, and overwhelming idea streams. 

Plus we’ll also look at building our ability to use tools to help us stay on track. We’ll deal with self worth, increase our ability to follow through and feel accomplished, the fatigue that comes with having so many ideas, and the difficulty communicating what our needs are to our friends and family.

Ready to find your tribe of others who can follow multiple threads of thought at once, have lots of energy, and creativity?

Ready to learn how to harness the gifts of your distractible brain and make it work for you rather than against you?

Then this program is for you. Over the course of 4 weeks we’ll target the hardest pieces of ADHD and learn tips and tricks to hack your own patterns. 

Impulsivity

Distractibility

Procrastination

Communication

Movement & Diet Support

Time Management 

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Our Love / Hate relationship with Structure

This program goes after all those old hurts and helps us heal the shame, frustrations, low self esteem, embarrassment, and guilt as a result of our distractible brain.

Using email, we’ll have a daily focus and skill/task to practice. 

We’ll meet live 1x a week for an hour long coaching session. We’ll focus on the topics of the week and a Q&A session to really target what you are struggling with. 

As part of the program, you’ll get a meal plan, shopping list, and workouts to help make sure you are maximizing the benefits of a healthy body and mind using exercise and nutrition to manage your ADHD. 

References:

  1. Krain, A., L., & Castellanos, F., X. (2006). Brain development and ADHD. Clinical Psychology Review, 26, 433-444.
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3 Ways to Give Your Body-Mind The Exercise it Needs

Hello, I am Dr Stacy Reuille-Dupont. I was an exercise scientist who turned into a clinical psychologist when I realized being healthy was about more than working out. Now I study how your body is changed by thought and emotion and how thought and emotion impact our physical systems. Here are some of the ways mental and physical health impact each other and 3 ways you can use exercise to optimize your health.

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For example your heart has its own electricalsystem that keeps it beating in rhythm, we strengthen it through cardiovascular exercise. This is things like running, biking, swimming, walking, anything you do with your big muscle groups for a period of time that makes your heart beat faster and breath rate go up. 

Equipment like treadmills, recumbent bikes, and elliptical machines are used to help people raise their heart rates indoors and get an effective cardiovascular workout done on limited time.

When we workout doing cardiovascular exercise we help our mood too. Our serotonin 2 endorphins, domaine, oxytocin, acetylcholine, all increase. These are the feel good hormones in our bodies. Doing just 2 – 30 minutes aerobic exercise sessions per week for at least 7 weeks is as good as taking a Selective Serotonin Re-uptake Inhibitor (SSRI) anti-depressant medication for depression3

These feel good hormones do more than just make us feel good, they also regulate other processes in our bodies and decrease inflammation throughout our physical system. This is important because inflammation 4 wreaks havoc on our tissues. It creates brain fog, digestive issues, joint pains, weight gain and makes us feel more stressed out. 

When we feel stressed out everything is harder. It’s harder to learn, our relationships are more difficult, often because we are more irritated, it is harder to relax, and harder to get excited about doing fun things, which is exactly what we need to do if we are going to feel better. So it’s a double whammy of struggle. 

When we feel stress we are feeling the increases of chemicals in our endocrine system. Specifically through what’s called the HPA-axis, this is our hypothalamus, pituitary, and adrenal glands. They work together to shift us into high gear and stay alive through a threat. However if we don’t move those chemicals out of our system they keep us inflamed and don’t help our tissues relax. And our body mind can’t tell if the threat is really happening to us or just something we saw on TV or in our video game5. We feel it in our physical system and then we respond as though it is happening to us even if we are just watching it or playing a game. 

Exercise is also considered a stressor and it works with the HPA-axis 6 too, but it gives us a mechanism to metabolize and use up those chemicals as our muscles, heart, lungs, and bones are working to move faster, lift heavy things, and challenge our fitness levels. So when we move our bodies and challenge ourselves we are building a stronger physical and mental system that works together 7.

Another big way exercise helps us is through our breathing. When we workout we breathe harder. Our lungs are one of four organs that help us get toxins out of our bodies. Exhaling even helps us lose weight8

Breathing is directly tied to our nervous system. When we breathe in we impact our sympathetic system, this is our high energy creative doing and fight/flight side of our nervous system. As we breathe out we impact our parasympathetic nervous system side9. This is our rest, digest, stay, and play, creative inspiration, feel good side. We want to be here more. This is where we feel safe and connected to people around us and something larger than ourselves. This tells our brains we are ok and the world is ok. We don’t have to be afraid. We have help and support when we need it. All humans need these feelings. When we are here our bodies and minds work better. 

So getting enough exercise is really important in our overall health. It helps our bones and muscles get stronger, helps our heart and digestive systems work better, and helps our minds learn faster, our moods feel more positive, and increases our self-confidence. 

Here’s 3 exercises you can do help your body-mind get the workout it needs. 

Running – Running is great because it asks the large muscles of our body to move over time – also known as cardiovascular exercise. Plus it’s hard for most of us and creates a mental game we must play if we are going to keep with it. It teaches our body how to function more effectively and our minds how to stick with boring things. 

Strength training – Strength training is about challenging your muscles to be stronger than they are now. There are lots of ways we can build our strength. So we can usually find something where we don’t get too bored. We just have to pick lifting, pushing, pulling things that are just a little bit heavier than what can comfortably do now. However it’s hard to lift heavy things. This challenges our muscles, builds our bones, and helps our minds remember we can do hard things. 

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Yoga – Yoga asana or postures are known for its ability to help us regulate our nervous systems through repetitive movements linked to our breathing. Remember above I talked about how our breathing is tied to our nervous system? This is part of why yoga works so well. Plus it asks us to contract and lengthen our muscles in a rhythmic pattern that helps our muscles stretch and become stronger under stretch. This is important for our range of motion – how much we can move a joint on our body – and keeps us moving throughout our lifetime. Yoga teaches us to be present to each experience as it happens and to just witness it, let it go as it has happened, and move to the next moment. We do not have to hold onto our judgment, frustration, fear, or joy because things are always changing. Yoga teaches us that change is ok and that we can make it through any changes, good or bad.

If you have a healthy and developed nervous system and strong mind you can handle anything that comes your way. Even the hard stuff, the boring stuff, the wanted and the unwanted stuff. A solid nervous system helps you regulate your emotions better and helps us stay present to our experiences which make our relationships, confidence, and ability to impact our world better. 

Today think about how you can move your body and help control your mind using movement. Challenge yourself to do hard things, lift more, run / walk further, or stay present to your breath. Use your body to experience everything that comes your way today. 

What you do today, impacts what you can do tomorrow. Many won’t be willing to put the effort in today to have the life they want tomorrow. 

Be different. 

Be willing to do the hard work of creating the life you want. This is called living an embodied life. 


Want help incorporating these ideas into your mental and physical fitness routines? 

Check out our integrative clinic at Studiob.life 

We work with people online and in person to learn more about how you can live more embodied everyday, understand how you can cultivate good feelings through simple movements and breathing exercises, and look closer at the science behind what’s happening in your psychology and physiology? 


References: 

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association between exercise and mood. Clinics, 60(1), 61-70.

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5 – Cunningham-Bussel, A. C., Root,  J.C., Butler, T., Tuescher, O., Pan, H., Epstein, J., Weisholtz, D., S., Pavony, M., Silverman, M. E., Goldstein, M., S.,  Altemus, M., Cloitre, M.,  LeDoux, J., McEwen, B., Stern, E., Silbersweig, D. (2009). Diurnal cortisol amplitude and fronto-limbic activity in response to stressful stimuli. Psychoneuroendocrinology, 34(5), 694-704, ISSN 0306-4530, https://doi.org/10.1016/j.psyneuen.2008.11.011.

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7 – Cotman, C. W., Berchotold, N. C., & Christie, L-A. (2007). Exercise builds brain health: Key roles of growth factor cascades and inflammation. TRENDS in Neurosciences, 30(9), 464-472. DOI:10.1016/j.tins.2007.06.011

8 – Meerman, R., & Brown, A. J. (2014). When somebody loses weight, where does the fat go? Gastroenterologocial Tracts. The BMJ, 349(7257), 1-3. doi: 10.1136/bmj.g7257

9 – Appelhans, B. M., & Luecken, L. J. (2006). Heart rate variability as an index of regulated emotional responding. Review of General Psychology (10)3, 229–240. doi: 10.1037/1089-2680.10.3.229

Affordable Ways Women Can Address Their Wellness Needs

Hitting the gym and eating healthy are two essentials in the wellness equation. But for women, the formula isn’t quite that simple. Men often lose weight faster — and keep it off longer — than women, which means ladies need a unique approach to meeting their health goals. Stacy Reuille dishes out affordable advice to help you start living a healthier life.

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Guest Post by: Shelia Johnson at Well Sheila

Women Versus Men: The Differences

A matchup between men and women is always interesting, but it’s not physical strength or intelligence we want to talk about. The truth is that women have more risk factors than men when it comes to health problems like heart disease, says Cleveland Clinic.

Women’s bodies also react differently to stress than men’s — a woman’s heart pumps more blood when she’s stressed, while men’s blood pressures rise. Different symptoms of heart disease can also confuse things. Fortunately, exercise and healthy habits can help women lower their risk.

But it’s not just physical differences that set men and women apart. Women experience depression — and receive a diagnosis for it — more often than men. Postpartum depression is another issue that’s unique to women, and hitting the gym isn’t a cure-all for baby blues.

The fact is that ladies need a unique approach to wellness — both physical and mental — to stay healthy and empowered. Fortunately, there are inexpensive ways to ensure your health and feel your best. Staying focused, motivated, and on track with your weight loss and wellness goals can be challenging. Try these tips to stick with it:

1. Look the Part

Embarking on a weight loss journey can be intimidating, but overhauling your mindset can help. Look at working out as a new adventure — and one that requires a new wardrobe. You can purchase workout gear to support your goals without breaking the bank with Nordstrom Rack coupons and promo codes.

Without overspending, you’ll be looking the part in no time — whether you’re walking, riding an exercise bike, or doing yoga. Plus, studies suggest that donning appropriate workout attire can change your attitude and confidence. In short, you can’t go wrong with yoga pants.

2. Care for All of You

Looking at physical fitness under a microscope means you’re missing the bigger picture when it comes to wellness. Physiology is only part of your path to better health. Psychology can also help you meet your goals and make more significant progress. In short, your mindset matters, so an overall healthy lifestyle needs to include self-care and mental health support as necessary.

On the plus side, this step doesn’t need to cost you much — most insurance plans are required to cover mental health support, for one thing, says the National Alliance on Mental Illness. But routine self-care can also be as simple as taking time to relax, indulging in hobbies you enjoy, and spending time with friends.

3. Know Yourself

Knowing that you hate running or that meditation helps you relax is a good start. But knowing yourself also comes down to understanding your physiology and why losing weight may be more difficult for you than men and even other women.

Women tend to have slower metabolism than men, but you may not see the same results by following your BFF’s meal plan or fitness regimen, either. Customizing a routine that works for your needs is essential for weight loss success. That’s one reason expensive fad diets don’t work — they don’t consider how different each person’s physical makeup is, whether man or woman. Save your money and invest in lifestyle changes rather than weight loss gimmicks.

Caring for your body and mind involves far more than counting calories and hitting the gym. To really reap the benefits of a healthier lifestyle, you need to understand why your body does what it does — and how to keep the entire system in alignment. If you’re ready to combine physiology with psychology for a well-rounded approach to fitness and health, reach out to Stacy Reuille for expert advice today.

Fighting Addiction With Exercise

While recovery from addiction takes many different forms and can be accomplished with many different treatment methods …

Guest Post by: Constance Ray from Recoverywell.org

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While recovery from addiction takes many different forms and can be accomplished with many different treatment methods, physical fitness is one aspect of the process that benefits just about everyone. You are attempting to help your body recover from a form of abuse, so it only makes sense to get your body in the best shape possible. 

Here are a few tips on how to build and maintain a healthy fitness routine during recovery from addiction, courtesy of Stacy Reuille-Dupont, PhD.

What Your Body Needs

As your body is adjusting to life without drugs or alcohol, it is undergoing some intense changes. While the end result is positive, the symptoms of withdrawal can include shakiness, increased heart rate, sweating, high blood pressure anxiety and more. Exercise can be a great way to fight these symptoms to make the withdrawal bearable; it can also be a healthy routine to continue even after your treatment is complete.

Types of Exercise

There is no one particular type of exercise that works for everyone who is in addiction recovery. Experience Life notes the key is to find a few kinds of physical activity that you enjoy and that helps you get closer to reaching your goals. For some people, this will be lifting weights, for others it will be cardio, for others it will be a sport. Many people find it helpful to mix hard training with activities that are more fun, such as rock climbing, kayaking or water skiing. If you enjoy the exercise, you’re much more likely to stick with it long-term.

Other alternative coping methods such as meditation, yoga and swimming can also relieve stress and anxiety and help you avoid relapse as you continue your fight against addiction. 

Whatever activities you choose, you might find it helpful to apply some tech to your program. A fitness watch, for instance, can help you monitor your progress and help you set goals. There are also numerous apps available to help. Some are dedicated to single exercise types — like Strong for weightlifting — and some are lifestyle apps — like MyFitnessPal or Whoop, which coaches your diet and exercise program as a whole. 

Along those lines, incorporating a holistic approach to your recovery is wise. Addressing your diet and adding meditation, time in nature, and time for socializing with supportive family and friends to the mix is wise. By remembering all your mental, emotional and physical self-care needs, you can raise your defenses that much more, and minimize your exposure to triggers.

Benefits of Exercise in Addiction Recovery

As the Chicago Tribune asserts, staying active can benefit you in several ways as you fight substance abuse. It can reduce your stress, improve your amount and quality of sleep, increase your energy levels, protect you against disease and reduce your drive to smoke and seek drugs. It will also keep you busy as you try to find ways to fill your time so you’re not dwelling on old, destructive desires.

In addition, focusing on exercise and physical fitness can improve your mental and psychological health. Studies indicate that exercise can reduce depression, ease anxiety, improve your self-esteem and lift your general mood, which are all important in the fight against addiction. It’s an avenue to release stress from your body and leave you feeling calm and refreshed. 

Keep a Healthy Routine

Once you have found an exercise program or activity that works for you, do your best to get into a regular daily and weekly rhythm so exercise is just part of your recovery program. You want to get to the point where you don’t have to decide whether or not to exercise – the decision has already been made by the way you have set up your life. This routine will not cure your addiction on its own, but it will play a vital role.

No matter what type of addiction you are facing, recovery is a long road. One way to make the trip smoother is to include a regular exercise routine in your daily life. You’ll find the physical and mental benefits invaluable as you fight to return to normal life without substance abuse.

Connect with Stacy Reuille-Dupont for more ideas to encourage your health and well-being.  Get a free WHOOP strap and your first month free when you join with Stacy’s link

What is Love? Understanding what is physically happening when we feel love.

Love is the most sung about emotion, it is the theme of our childhood movies, and our spiritual teachings. But what does it really mean to love? To love well? To find true love?

Love is something many of us spend time searching for, questing over, and trying to find. What is it?

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What is love?

Love is often associated with terms like commitment, intimacy, attachment, passion, and jealousy, grief, heart-broken. 

Love is a feeling, it is a construct we use to identify somatic sensations we have and label as emotions. It is the word we use to describe what we like, want, appreciate. It is a word we use to differentiate where we will put our attention. We know love when we feel it and pine for it when we can’t find it. Most people describe love as a feeling of warmth, openness, and a sense of connection. Here’s what is physically happening when we feel love. 

The physicality of love.

The body communicates with many chemicals. Oxytocin is the “love” hormone. This chemical is responsible for our bonding. It is important when we give birth as it bonds us to the new baby. It is important and part of why we see such connection at rallies, group events, working toward a common passion, and helps our bodies regulate a variety of other hormones and processes to keep our physical system healthy and happy. 

The chemistry changes of vasopressin are also important in the love cocktail. Vasopressin is connected to our sense of protection and protecting those we love. It helps us get through and manage stressful events, and together these experiences help us bond with other mammals. 

We often symbolize love with images of our heart. From a basic anatomy, the heart, our symbol of love, is a unique organ. It is the only place we find cardiac muscle. This muscle contains its own electrical signal and communicates in its own system. The muscle sends electrical signals to its parts to beat and remain in rhythm. 

The heart is like our battery in our car. It keeps us going and sparks other systems. The heart is critical to our survival. It connects to every other part of our body through its role as the pump of our circulatory system and assisting our lymph system to rid our body of toxins. As the blood comes in and out of the heart it nourishes every other organ. It bathes our whole body in chemicals needed to facilitate a cascade of physical changes throughout our day. Carter and Porges (2013) state, “the protective effects of positive sociality seem to rely on the same cocktail of hormones that carry a biological message of ‘love’ throughout the body”, (pg 16), which the heart is responsible for trucking. Oxytocin plays a role in development of our fetal heart and protects our heart by converting stem cells into caridomyocytes (Carter & Porges, 2013). 

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Love = Bonding, stress, and aggression.

Emotions are felt on the somatic level (physical sensations) and are also complex physiological reactions with motor responses. In our brains love helps facilitate goal directed behavioral activities that help us connect to another person. This ensures survival of the species. Feeling love helps us cognitively too. Bianchi-Demicheli, Grafton, and Ortigue (2006) found that being in love led to faster response times on a lexicon experiment when the participants were “primed” with an associated message about the person they were in love with. 

Carter and Porges (2013) state “The same molecules that allow us to give and receive love, also link our need for others with health and wellbeing” through the benefits that oxytocin has on our physical systems and due to its role in bonding us to others. When we have more social support we are more resilient in the face of stressors and our oxytocin – vasopressin experiences are supportive to our wellbeing. This could be due to the anti-inflammatory and antioxidant properties oxytocin has. 

However when you have too much vasopressin without balancing oxytocin we have more aggressive behaviors. Infants with increased chronic exposure to vasopressin may over-react or be more defensive throughout their lives. Increased exposure may come from highly stressed or traumatized parents (Carter & Porges, 2013). 

Due to vasopressin’s link with androgen hormones (testosterone) males appear to be more sensitive to the effects of vasopressin. Following stressful experiences male prairie voles quickly form bonds with females, but females showed preference for other females following a stressful exercise (Carter, 1998). It appears males and females experience love and bonding differently due to differing pathways and experiences of these endogenous chemicals. 

Stressful experiences help us bond to others. This could be why we experience a sense of community following difficult events like storms, tests, rallies, assaults, and training exercises even when tragedy has occurred. 

Why love is helpful to your physical system and fear is not.

Love is Addicting. 

Love is so “addicting” is due to the way catecholamines reinforce our repeated behaviors. Catecholamines are chemicals like dopamine and norepinephrine. They are well known as the reward and pleasure neurotransmitters. These are the ones we are after when we use stimulants like cocaine. 

As a result of experiencing a pleasurable experience we feel the joy of dopamine. We like it, we want more of whatever it was that gave us that feeling. In substance abuse we often look to dopamine as a reason for someone’s struggle letting go of the drug. 

Catecholamines link our experiences with our desire. Dopamine plays a role in the release of oxytocin and plays a role in pair bonding (Carter, 1998). Think about how much you like sex. This is the dopamine-oxytocin cocktail at work. Orgasm dumps a slew of the “feel good” endogenous chemicals into our system all at the same time. We relax, feel content, experience joy, and feel connected to the person we are laying beside. We may tag this experience as love or just good feelings based on who is next to us. But we go back and do it again and again and again. 

Why We Like to Be Around Others When Feeling Love

Love like any other emotion love is a chemical, electrical, and vibrational shift in our physical body. Love comes with an openness to experiences that “lifts our moods”. It makes us see things more clearly, colors become more vibrant, and we find the sparkle in each experience. This is in part due to the endogenous opiates and dopamine we experience along side oxytocin and vasopressin responses when experiencing a sense of connectedness.

We are vibrational beings. As atoms communicate they shift vibrational states to match other atoms in their vicinity. This is why we can “feel” an energy in different environments. Our bodies register the vibrational quality and signal our brain to label it. When our brains “see” it we label the emotion based on our past experiences. We have cells called mirror neurons that register what others in our environment are doing. They “mirror” what is being expressed in our brains. When our mirror neurons fire we can understand what others are experiencing. We are not always right in our assessment, but we often have an accurate sense when we are paying close attention. We share in that experience with them through mirror neurons and limbic resonance in our brains and it feels good to “know” another.

When we experience love alongside others we have a sense of “being in a bubble” with that person or feeling “like no one else was in the room with us”. These experiences speak to the physical changes happening in our bodies and being matched by another. As noted above, this “matching” is important to our sense of wellbeing, stress management, and overall health. 

Together love shifts our physical structure and changes the way our body communicates with others in our environment. When we are steeped in love and joy others know and we lift them up by sharing these energies. Our bodies are made to communicate beyond our physical systems.

Our nervous systems and mirror neurons communicate our internal state to other mammals. When we are feeling more content, open, and expansive others benefit from our emotional experiences. It is why we like to be in contact with other people who are experiencing positive emotional states too. It is why we like to gather with those who have a common goal and share our values around cultivating happiness and love. 

When we connect with others experiencing these similar emotions we synergistically raise the experience for us all. We are greater than the sum of our two parts by sharing our love. 

Here a few ways we can cultivate and share our sense of love in the world. 

1) In Eastern traditions we look at chakras and the heart line. The heart chakra connects us to humanity. When we feel connected to others we often feel a warmth in our heart space. Try “breathing through your heart”. In this practice breathe in and out with the visual of that air moving through the heart center bathing you and the world in a sense of peace, connectedness, and goodwill. 

2) We talk about “broken hearts” and my “heart hurts” as we explain our struggles with connection. The heart line is a nerve running on the inside of the arm. By applying pressure to this line it helps our nervous system calm, which allows us to feel more safe with others and in the world. 

We can activate this nerve by reaching out to other people – hugs, holding hands, physical touch – can all help us feel more connected. You can also karate chop one hand in the palm of the other to quickly calm yourself. By stimulating this nerve you are slowing the heart rate, which in turn will slow your breath rate. Together they will shift you from a sympathetic stress state to parasympathetic rest state. 

3) Work on truly connecting with others. When you are out use eye contact to convey loving kindness to those you meet along your path. On the street, in stores, with family, friends, and co-workers share a smile that goes all the way to your eyes. Let others see the joy you posses and benefit from your expansiveness by sharing eye contact and a smile. These two gestures help release dopamine and oxytocin in both you and the person you are smiling at. Plus you’ll usually get a smile back and that means you’ll get another dump of dopamine and oxytocin. See above for the addictive effects of love and why this might feel so good. 

You can also manipulate these structures through quick breathing and physical exercises that help you connect more to yourself and to others. Here are 3 ways to take care of your heart using exercise and breath:

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  3. Good Cardio Exercise

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References: 

Bianchi-Demicheli, F., Grafton, S. T., & Ortigue S. (2006). The power of love on the human brain. Social Neuroscience, 1(2), 90-103. DOI:10.1080/17470910600976547   

Carter, C. S., & Porges, S. W. (2013). The biochemistry of love: An oxytocin hypotheses. European Molecular Biology Organization Reports, 14(1). 12-16. DOI:10.1080/17470910600976547  

Carter, C. S. (1998). Neuroendocrine perspectives on social attachment and love. Psychoneuroendocrinology, 23(8), 779-818.