Flow is so important to our mental health. Finding your flow doesn’t have to be hard, you just have to be open to building options into your daily schedule.
What will you do today to find your flow? Flow helps us tap into the larger field and creatively access information, ideas, and options for living our best life.
Often we find flow when we participate in projects that challenge us but are something we feel engaged in and enjoy doing. Can you think of anything you can do today to help yourself find flow? It doesn’t have to be anything big.
I am planning to hit the mountain, ride my board with a good friend, and enjoy the morning looking at beautiful views. After than I will be ready to tackle the administrative parts of my job I really don’t like! I am looking forward to tackling those tasks after a morning of blissed out flow!
May the light return in your life. Enjoying the end of a great day contemplating the light and dark aspects of our world, the balance between them, and the need for both. I love this time of year and am sad to see the dark begin to recede. What a beautiful night to enjoy the light of the fire and the light of the full moon. The light always returns in more ways than one.
ThisMonday night, December 17th at5:00pm PT, I will present an R20 Live Session for anyone stuck in active addiction, all those who are relatively young in recovery and those who have experiencedrelapse.
It is one of our my core philosophies that different people need different things at different times. People in early recovery have specific needs and I would like to address these from the Recovery 2.0 perspective.
Due to the critical nature of this subject matter, this talk will be open to the entire Recovery 2.0 Community, not just members.
I was talking with my daughter as she came back from a camping trip with friends. I asked her what she learned about her self and others on this trip off grid. She said “I learned that there’s times I need to be alone. When I’m alone I am able to find my values and myself”. I thought this was a pretty brilliant answer for a 15 year old who struggles to find her own voice in an age of intense peer pressure.
When I asked her what she thought her values were, she didn’t have a good answer. She said “that’s why I need to be alone, I need time to think about what kind of person I want to be and what’s important to me so I can be the best version of me”. Pretty … damn … smart.
I started thinking, regardless of our age, we struggle to determine the people we want to be. We often struggle to find ourselves in the face of change and our voice gets buried in the load roar of society’s voice. That’s why being alone is so important. You need time to reflect and contemplate what you want in your life, who you want to be.
When you find yourself on solo adventures you only rely on you. You are only doing things you want to do, eating where you want to eat, and exploring what you want to explore. You do not listen to anyone else’s voice, hear anyone else’s opinion, or deal with anyone else’s expectations. When you solo adventure you have to rely on yourself and find your own strength to navigate, to get around, to figure out timing, and make decisions.
This is no easy feat, in our world there are so many choices in every moment it’s often safer to stay between black and white, right and wrong, good and bad. When we don’t know ourselves well and have a strong identification with our personal values, it’s safer to adopt values based on someone else’s voice. It’s easier to let someone else tell us what we should and should not do, who we should like, what we should like, what we should eat, how we should move, when we should go to sleep, what we should read, the list goes on. It’s also a bit of a cop out. If things go wrong or don’t turn out as we expected it’s not our fault we were just following what we were taught. Solo adventuring allows you the opportunity to find out what your own values are and then live your authentic truth.
I know this is a commercial … but I like all the different places it shows. I do not know about this company. I just liked the video. 🙂
Finding values is hard. There’s great freedom and responsibility in value choices. If you haven’t given your values a thought in a while, now might be a great time to take a value inventory determine what it is that matters most to you. From here you can look at your day to determine if you are living up to your values. So many of us give great lip service to values, but we don’t really live by them. We say we care about our health while tanking it with our food choices, say we care about being present while using substances to alter our state whenever we are with good friends decreasing our ability to be fully present to them. We say we want to move more, while driving around looking for the closest parking spot. If you haven’t spent some time soloing – it might be time to book yourself some alone time and reflect on how well you’ve been living up to the person you say you want to be.
If you haven’t thought about your values in a while check out this values inventory to help you get started. This is a great place to start. It’s important to check in on your values every so often. The person you want to be today, may not be the same person you were 2 years ago, 5, 10 years ago. Solo adventuring offers an opportunity to take space and develop a relationship with yourself.
When you have a strong self-relationship, you know who you are – deep down know who you are. You know you are not trying to fit yourself into someone else’s category. You have an understanding of what’s important to you. Once you have clarity, you have an opportunity to practice skills that move you toward the person you want to be every day (more on this in the next post). Other people’s voices no longer crowd your mind, you know what to do to live your most fulfilling life.
This is an amazing gift to the rest of us. When you live your most authentic self, the rest of us are free to live our authentic lives. We all get an opportunity to bring our gifts to the world and be valued for them. Ahhh, isn’t that what it’s all about in the end?
Hey Superior Balance friends look what I found! Jeff and I are planning to be in Superior and thought it would be nice to reconnect with folks from the club. We’ll be at Tavern 105 (61st & Tower) July 28th at 6:30pm. Please pass this along to others I don’t have on my facebook who might like to join us and re-connect after 10 years.
Checkout the pictures I found: https://www.facebook.com/stacy.reuilledupont/posts/10212700311038637
The session starts just like all the others – you settle in, getting ready to take notes, not making eye contact with too many people, staking your energetic space, and wondering if you’ll have to pee 1/2 through “am I close enough to the door?”
When the door closes, I decide I am close enough to the door to pee if I need to and I relax into anticipatory excitement to learn. Then Chris begins to explain how he starts all his groups. WAIT!? Did I hear him right? In my business clothes, at a criminal justice conference, he’s going to have me do 22 push ups? In unison, with a group countdown!
Gotta love it when the presenter of your session is a USMC vet and a Crossfit gym owner!
Thank you Chris Cater of Veterans Overcoming Obstacles for making sure my body was warmer than the room’s air conditioner AND that my mind was ready to learn. Love hearing stories of exercise as a healing agent for mental health, PTSD, and stopping death by suicide. Thank you for your great work!!!
Want more info on this great program and meet these tough athletes, visit VO2 and see how this program is saving the lives of our veterans everyday. Gotta love the power of exercise to heal our mind.