5 Ways to Manifest Better Balance in Your Life.

Many of us work on trying to find balance by equally dividing our days and tasks. The problem with this is that not everything fits into equal parts. Instead look for congruence between your goals and actions to know you are living a balanced life.

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Balance is not having a neat orderly life where everything fits just perfectly into each segment of your day. It’s about finding congruence in your thoughts, actions, and emotions. Then enjoying each of them to the max. 

“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony”.

Mahatma Gandhi

Congruence creates a sense of alignment. Balance has many layers and alignment is one of them. Ultimately our goal is to find purposeful activities in our everyday life and get rid of those that are not serving us. This helps us feel alignment in our actions and beliefs. Which leads to a life full of joyful and inspired wellness.

Have you thought about how being out of balance might be effecting your efforts to be more physically healthy? 

For example: Does feeling imbalance, stress, overwhelm, collapse, or lethargic impact your food choices, your exercise habits, or your motivation and confidence levels?

Sometimes just noticing can be powerful. Noticing how imbalance in your life affects other choices, helps illuminate the choice that change is necessary. When you have necessity change becomes easier. 

After noticing how these imbalances are effecting you can you see ways to change and stop patterns of behavior? If not you are not alone.

Other times it may be incredibly difficult to change even though it becomes obvious you are self-defeating the hard work you are doing (or have done) to live more healthy. Also very common. If change change were easy everyone would be doing it much more often and I would be out of a job.

Once you have determined areas of your life you want to change it is easy to blame why you don’t change on others:

My kids need too much

My significant other doesn’t want to eat healthy

I have too much to do

I am taking care of my parents

the list could go on …

The bottom line is change is hard, there is a reason you are caught in the patterns you are caught in, and if you really want your life to look different you will have to figure out ways to make differences happen. Small steps can make that happen.

Here are some ideas to get you started.

  1. Write down your goals. This is so important and so many skip this step. They have the image or idea of the big goal, but without getting it out of their heads and into their daily life change is not going to happen. Writing it down helps solidify and shift focus so we can determine the smalls steps that break down the big goal. 
  1. Delegate. Are there jobs you do (laundry, cleaning, cooking, errands, car pooling) that others could do. Hint: they will do it differently than you and that is ok.
  1. Create Some Boundaries. Do you need to tell people no more often – “no I can’t cook X for the upcoming pot-luck”, “no I can’t coach soccer this fall”. Get clear about what you want. This is critical to honoring yourself and others in your actions. Be kind, open, and honest when turning down offers and be ready for resistance from people who are used to hearing yes.
  1. Create a Goal Poster. Clip pictures of your life vision and set the intention to achieve them. Place it where you will see it often everyday.
  1. Commit to Live with Intention. In each moment ask yourself if this is what you want to be doing or thinking and honestly listen for the answer. When you find yourself answering no decide what you do want to be doing and make efforts to move in that direction. This is not a suggestion to shrink from life responsibilities. All of us would rather be doing something else at times but by listening to what you would rather be doing you begin to see a pattern of what is working and what is not working in your life. By visualizing what you want you are better able to recognize activities which might move you in that direction. In doing those activities more often you are more likely to get the life you want one step at a time.

And if you feel pretty balanced right now you may want to think about strategies to keep it that way. Life has a tendency to cycle and the more tools you have in your toolshed the better able you will be to handle any curve ball thrown at you.

Today make the first step by deciding it is time for a change and taking action on the 5 steps above to get started. 

The goal of Dr. Stacy Reuille-Dupont is to help you live a life of contentment and peace, excitement and energy while living an embodied life. Feel free to request an appointment today!

Time for a Change? 5 Ways to Transform Your Life

Have you been feeling stagnant and stuck lately?

Sometimes, we all need to change things up to feel motivated again – especially when we’ve spent the last year coping with a worldwide pandemic.

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If you’re unhappy with where you are now or the direction your life is headed, you always have the opportunity to try something new. 

The idea of shifting your habits and routines can seem daunting, but if you focus on small, achievable goals, you’ll be surprised at how easily you adapt.

You may not notice a difference overnight, but with time, patience, and dedication, psychologist Stacy Reuille-Dupontbelieves that taking these steps to transform your life will pay off. 

Get in Shape

Finding a sport that suits your interests and lifestyle makes exercising feel like fun rather than a chore. After a couple of months of exercising regularly, you’ll have more endurance, you’ll sleep better, and you’ll definitely tone up. 

Starting a fitness routine doesn’t have to mean lifting weights or running miles every morning.

In addition to weights, exercise bikes, and treadmills, joining a gym typically gives you access to lots of classes, like pilates and yoga. 

If you’d prefer to work out at home or you’re simply looking to save a little money by forgoing a gym membership, you still have plenty of options when it comes to exercising.

For example, you can follow along to workout videos on your TV with a streaming device.

Find some channels and apps featuring instructors you like, and it can feel like you have a personal trainer in your living room!

To boost your motivation, you can also put together custom workout playlists to stream while you exercise.

Choose an easy-to-use streaming device so you can flip through channels and songs effortlessly while you work out.

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Cook Healthy Meals

Working out is just one aspect of living a healthier lifestyle.

Stocking your pantry with healthy staples and committing to cooking most nights rather than eating out can have a significant positive impact on your physical and mental health.

Packaged, processed food and restaurant meals are often loaded with excess sugar and sodium.

You don’t have to be a skilled chef to whip up tasty, nutritious meals – with a little practice, you’ll have the basics mastered in no time. 

Not sure where to begin? Harvard Health Publishing suggests incorporating more fruits, vegetables, nuts, and whole grains into your diet.

Next, experiment with new recipes that combine ingredients you already love and find healthier alternatives to dishes you enjoy.

You’ll have more energy on a daily basis, and you’ll save money in the process!

Make a Budget

Want to take control of your financial future? Creating a realistic budget that helps you stay on track to your savings goals is the first step.

With countless apps that help you watch your spending, sticking to a budget has never been easier. 

If you’re ready to figure out your personal budget, begin by taking stock of all of your necessary expenses, like rent, utilities, insurance, and other monthly bills.

Next, account for eating out, shopping, and getting drinks with friends.

Look for ways you can save money each month, such as:

  1. Refinance loan rates remain low, so now is the perfect time to lower your monthly payments.
  2. Reducing the number of services you subscribe to. For example, if you use Netflix and Hulu more often than you watch live TV, it might make sense to cancel or cut down your cable package.
  3. Cutting down on your grocery budget. As noted above, eating an excessive amount of packaged foods can impact your physical and mental health – and buying them can put a dent in your wallet.

Any ancillary funds you can save can be put toward a long-term savings or emergency account.

Having this financial cushion will give you peace of mind right away, not to mention in the event you need to use it.

Talk to a Therapist

If you’ve been struggling with depression or anxiety and your symptoms are holding you back from living the life you really want, it’s time to talk to a therapist.

A therapist can help you understand why you feel the way you do and teach you coping strategies that will help you manage your stress and move beyond depression. 

It may take a little while to find a therapist who is right for you.

Begin your search by looking up providers in your area, and make a few phone calls to schedule your first session.

Committing to therapy for even just a few months can dramatically transform your mindset. 

When you decide to take responsibility for your path in life and move confidently toward your goals, gradual changes are the key to lasting success.

With the right tools and support, you have the power to transform your life. 

If you are looking to optimize your life book your FREE consultation session now.

Good Morning 2022! What will you create this year? How to keep your Focus and Build the Life You Want. 

I love this day. It’s often the only day I allow myself to wear my pajamas all day and do nothing … or not.

For some reason on the 1st day of the year I have a lot more grace with myself.

This year I’m going to create more bliss and balance in my life. I’m going to take the grace I often give myself on the 1st day of the year and extend that into other days sprinkled throughout.

Living a life with meaning has a lot to do with the ability to balance your priorities and joy. In the clinic we see so many people who are sad or angry because their lives lack purpose and meaning.

Here’s 3 tips on how to stay focused and crush your 2022 goals.

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On New Year’s Day most of us figure out some resolutions – changes we want to make and things we want to let go of. Then we get busy hyper-focusing on them. 

My time managing fitness centers taught me that by Feb 14th we would have enough towels, lockers, and parking spaces again. People burned out on their focus and quit those new years’s goals within 6 weeks of making them. 

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Over the years, I learned a few things to make sure that burned out shooting star is not what I do:

1st – Sustainable change happens in small steps. Research shows solid consistent change in about 10% increments is the most predictable sign that someone will really shift their lifestyle. Sometimes it is hard to get started you can sign up with a coach, online program, or even do therapy focused activities at home.

2nd – Tracking works. I can hear your groans. Many of my clients are very audible when I bring this up. However, again research shows us that by just tracking your current behavior you will change it. Begin just counting how many times / day you do X behavior. 

It can be one you want to let go of or one you want to increase. Just becoming aware of what you are currently doing and why (triggers for that behavior) will shift your consciousness around it.

Consciousness is the first step to change. 

3rd – Be compassionate, toward yourself and others. You know I love this statement … research shows … compassion is a bigger driver of successful change than castigation.

However, many of us were taught to use shame and punishment to impact someone’s (including our own) behaviors. 

The reality is, it just doesn’t work as well as kindness and love

Find that place of feeling content and appreciated for what you have accomplished thus far, even if you feel that’s only .1% of your life. It’s from this place of feeling cherished that you will make the most progress toward your goals. 

As we turn the corner on another year, enjoy your day, your people, and whatever activities you  have planned to being the new year. 

Here’s to a healthier you in 2022! 

Free Yourself to Improve Your Life By Cutting Out These Habits

There is no shortage of literature that revolves around actions you can take to improve your life. But what if sometimes we need to be focusing on the habits and mindsets that we should eliminate? By stopping negative actions we have … read more

Guest Post by: Dorothy Watson of the Mental Wellness Center

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… become accustomed to, we can free ourselves to make meaningful strides toward health, wellness, and joy. Stacy Reuille-Dupont, Ph.D. has listed some practical things that you can stop doing today so that you can make room for a better you!

Staying at an Unfulfilling Job

First of all, you spend a lot of your life at work. So, if you hate your job, chances are it is having a negative impact on your life. Whether your job is boring, not accommodating your talents or desires, or simply too stressful, make a change now. 

These days, you can get a college degree while still balancing the other responsibilities in your life. Taking online courses will help you boost your career prospects and give you the flexibility you need to focus on family, work, and other commitments. For instance, pursuing a bachelor of science in business, information technology, or health administration could open up all kinds of opportunities for your future. Just make sure that any online school you consider is accredited and offers competitive tuition costs. 

Waiting to Get Started

Too many people wait to make meaningful changes in their lives until there is no longer an opportunity to make them. Don’t wait for your situation or circumstances to be perfect before you change your career, try a new hobby, start a family, or make other moves. If you wait for the stars to align, you may find yourself looking back at missed opportunities. 

Skipping Over Your Own Needs

Did you know that you could be a great parent, family member, friend, and citizen without living to please others? Taking care of your needs does not make you selfish. Each of us has a unique personality and chemical makeup, which means that none of us have the same exact needs. Make time to relax, recharge, and navigate any mental, emotional, and physical health issues that are keeping you from reaching your goals.

Not Taking Care of Your Health     

This bad habit sort of falls in line with the previous one. You must carve out time in your daily schedule to foster your mental, emotional, and physical health. Make sure you are exercising at least five days a week and eating a nutritious, balanced diet. Also, come up with a bedtime routine that helps you get at least seven hours of sleep each night. There are strong links between our psychology and physiology, and making simple strides toward better exercise, eating, and sleeping routines can do wonders for all-around health. 

Dwelling on the Past or Future

One of the hardest things to do in life is to embrace the present. Each of us has made mistakes and experienced moments in the past which we wish would have gone differently. However, other than learning lessons, it does no good to dwell on the past. And at the same time, you shouldn’t try to predict the outcomes of the future. If you want to dream about what’s to come, focus on envisioning your goals rather than fantasizing about unrealistic circumstances.

Neglecting to Get Help

If you live with depression, anxiety, ADHD, or any other mental health issues, you are not alone. There are many more people throughout the world that deal with similar conditions. There are so many, in fact, that there are professionals who dedicate their life’s work to helping individuals navigate such issues. Don’t be afraid of reaching out for help. If you are ready to transform your life and receive the guidance you need for navigating the challenges ahead, connect with a mental health professional like Stacy Reuille-Dupont today!

Sometimes, self-improvement is being proactive about eliminating harmful behaviors or thoughts. If you relate to any of the habits above, start making the changes you need to make right now. And always be open to other ways you can develop healthy habits and mindsets that will keep you on track to becoming a better you!

Would you like to read more helpful content or learn about how Studio B is helping our clients through a wide array of physical and mental health issues? Visit stacyrd.com today!

How To Banish Burnout At Work And At Home

Burnout is, according to Healthline, “a state of mental and physical exhaustion that can zap the joy out of your career, friendships, and family interactions.” And it is a very real phenomenon that many professionals experience at some level throughout their careers. Fortunately, career burnout is something you can thwart before your light begins to fade. Here are some practical tips to beat burnout both at work and at home.

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At Work

  • Be a better leader. When you have great leadership skills, your employees will never have to question what they need to do, how it needs to be done, and when. They will look up to you as a mentor instead of simply the person that signs their paycheck. Once you refine your leadership skills, you can easily lead your organization through good and bad times with the kind of positive mindset people find contagious.
  • Enhance your education. Leadership is just one business skill you can sharpen to be more effective in the office. It is never too late — and you never have too much or too little experience — to pursue mastery in other areas. Business management and marketing are two of these, and pursuing a business degree online will allow you to continue to work while improving your professional acumen.
  • Improve company morale. Career burnout is often caused in part by the negative attitudes of those within your organization. This is an easy remedy, and you can improve employee morale by maintaining an open line of communication and recognizing a job well done. Connecteam points out that simple recognition motivates more than three-quarters of employees. This can lead to greater productivity and less stress throughout your entire organization.

At Home

  • Vacation often. Taking a vacation — even a quick weekend trip — increases mindfulness and can give your brain a much-needed boost. While you may not be able to enjoy a lengthy sabbatical, do prioritize family vacations or solo sojourns every few months. After each trip, you’ll notice you are much more productive and positive than you were before your sabbatical.
  • Leave work at work. 50 — this is the number of hours that the American Institute of Stress says pushes most American workers toward feelings of burnout. As an executive, you may be tempted to work from the office five days a week and respond to emails and telephone calls in your off-hours. Limit this as much as possible, and make sure that your superiors and subordinates are aware of your boundaries. Remember, you have to have personal time to be most productive during your professional time.
  • Engage in healthy habits. The actions you take each day to better your health will help you keep your flame burning bright at work and at home. Health threats, such as sleep deprivation, malnutrition, and untamed stress, will follow you to the office and stick around long after you’ve clocked out. Do yourself a favor and get plenty of sleep, eat well, and exercise. These — along with other healthy habits, including socializing and keeping a clean home — will go a long way toward beating career fatigue.

Career burnout is an alarming phenomenon that can leave you stagnant in your career, no matter how close to the top you climb. But you can avoid it by taking steps now to improve your work and home environment. The above tips are a great place to start. 

Does burnout have you feeling overwhelmed and depressed? Dr. Stacy’s seven-day course can get you to shift your mindset to get back on track.