Facing Fears and Dealing with Trauma

We all have trauma. Some experiences are worse than others, some easier to deal with. For many we pretend we aren’t dealing with trauma and thus keep our survival brain operating instead of our socially engaged learning brain. This hurts us all and gets worse with time. Trauma impacts your physical health, relationships, and ability to be successful. Is it time you faced your fears and healed your trauma?

As we move through this season of endings and watch mother nature let go, it’s a good reminder to reconnect with parts of ourselves that have been wounded and shunned. 

During this time of year many spiritual practices focus on reconnecting with the past, honoring those who have come before, and remembering we are connected to a much larger system – nature, family, seasons, history, ancestors, and even traumas. 

I am not affiliated with this movie. I just really like it. I like the concept and spirit of how important it is to honor our ancestors and ourselves at the same time while holding space for all that the family story may contain.

Past trauma keeps us stuck and living as though the bad will happen again. This year what might happen if you faced your fears, looked deeper at your family stories, beliefs, patterns, and trauma to truly heal your body and soul?

In honor of Halloween (Samhain/Día de los Muertos) this month, let’s honor the past and reconnect with our true selves even if it scares us. Many of us avoid things we are fearful of. This makes sense. Usually when we feel fear there is danger near and we need to move away from it to survive. 

The way the brain is set up, the amygdala is wired to help us understand danger, where it comes from, and what to do about it. Its signal inspires for us to get away from things we deem as dangerous. Unfortunately sometimes things we believe are dangerous are just what we believe, they truly aren’t dangerous for us, but caught in belief patterns of fear based on past experiences. What they are doing is hitting the danger, danger, danger button of our brains based on past experiences. It is linking to times when we were afraid or when our ancestors were in danger. But it may not be true today. 

When the amygdala gets going it can be hard to break from the cycle of fear. This is part of what is not working in Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). As a result of a traumatic experience – physical or mental – our nervous system gets highjacked. This highjacking keeps us “looping” in hyper-vigilant states looking for what is wrong, even after the danger is over. 

In addition to being on edge for what danger is coming at us, we can also go into what is known as a hypo-arousal state. This numbed out feeling, lack of connection, and sense of being apart from our experiences is a survival mechanism to keep us alive. Often we bounce between the two states and feel more and more fearful and confused. 

Our bodies are pretty brilliant when it comes to making sure the species goes on. However if we do not heal traumatic wounding and reset the nervous system back toward health it wreaks havoc on our immune system, cardiovascular system, our relationships, our ability to work, and our concentration and thoughts to name a few items. Research continues to link trauma to a number of chronic conditions, like chronic pain, cardiovascular disease, obesity, sleep disorders, headaches, and digestive issues. To heal it we must work with our dysregulated state and allow ourselves to build capacity to stay present to what is happening in front of us now, not what we have experienced in the past. 

In therapy we often work using pendulum states – moving between an escalated nervous system presentation to safety – while the therapist helps regulate the whole system. We work to build what is called a window of tolerance for sensitivity and stress while adding healthy coping skills back into the system. 

Once the nervous system is reset and the healthy coping skills learned, it’s not like the trauma didn’t happen, but instead of being a gaping wound that hurts to move, it’s a scar that may be sensitive to similar experiences. It’s not hurt anymore, but it reminds us that we had a scary or terrifying experience in our past. It helps us see how strong we are and helps us learn to be more kind to ourselves and others. 

As we turn toward trauma it does not mean we have to repeat all the details of the event(s). Often we don’t know them. The brain is good at managing states so we don’t even remember all the ugly stuff we experienced, however the body knows. The experience is still categorized in experiences and needs to be “filed into the right chapter” of life. We do this in a variety of ways, but telling the story isn’t necessary.

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As we begin to face what fears we have, we slowly become more free. We learn that not everything that was will happen again, not everyone we meet will hurt us, and not every trip outside our home ends badly. We slowly begin to see that life is full of good things and bad things. Things we like and things we don’t. Little by little we come out of our shell and heal. We get stronger. We get braver. We get more connected to all that is around us. 

During this time of letting go, closing down, honoring ancestors, facing goblins, ghosts, and ghouls. Are you willing to face your own demons? Then let’s get started. 


If you are ready to face your own demons … contact us and we can help you determine the next steps on your personal journey. Studio B ~ Create. Your. Self.

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How to work out and get exercise right during a pandemic

I have been getting lots of questions about how to workout during shelter in place rules. A number of people have struggled feeling tired and overwhelmed even though they aren’t sick and not working out regularly. So many of us are off our routines. When we get off our routines our system gets off. This is our nervous system response to stress.

We often do not realize how much work our bodies are doing to manage stress. We feel like it should be fine, we should be fine. And … we are not. We are in need of more rest and support – even when things are not “that bad”. It is important to listen to your body and meet it where it is. Give it what it needs to be your optimal self.

Here are a few suggestions to help you get moving even when your nervous system is busy managing the uncertainty and stress.

For more information on working with your body and nervous system to program your workouts: read more here https://stacyrd.com/get-moving-the-li…

For more videos to help you stay on psychological track, check these out: https://stacyrd.com/exercise-videos-f…

You can learn more about me on my blog at: www.Stacyrd.com

or psychology practice website: www.stacyreuille.com

Your Body Holds the Answers. Ordinary to Badass Podcast Interview.

Join Marie and I as we talk about how to manage social distancing and still feel connected during the COVID-19 outbreak, how to treat mental health with diet and exercise, and what it means to be the best you possible.If you haven’t heard her podcasts yet … check them out! She has amazing women talking about life and working to create the life they want to lead. I like to listen while I work out- these ladies are INSPIRING!! I always workout a little harder, thanks to their stories of hard work and success.

In this episode I talk to Stacy Reuille-Dupont, PHD.  Stacy is a licensed Clinical Psychologist, a licensed addiction counselor, and a certified personal trainer.  Stacy incorporates Psychology and movement to help you get results!

In this episode we talk about her fitness club burning down, how to manage stress during covid-19, and using movement to improve your mental health!


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Below is the link to the podcast on iTunes. 

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Creating A Boundary Bubble

Many people feel like they do not have control over what impacts them from the environment. They feel overtaken by the sounds, smells, other people around them. This mediation offers an opportunity to create a personal space bubble and take back your individuality in relation to all that is around you.

Ready to Make a Change?

And as always, if you are struggling you can schedule a 15 min Q&A appointment to see if it’s time to give yourself the gift of therapy. When else can you talk about yourself for an hour with someone trained to deeply listen to your core, not just the story you tell yourself. 

Upcoming Programs:

Integration of Yoga & Psychology … Wisdom Informs, Science Explains. Free 1 hour Class

Ever wonder why & how Yoga works? Modern Psychology has some of the science to explain the ancient wisdom Yoga has been saying for years.

Integration of Yoga and Psychology Free Webinar
The Integration of Yoga and Psychology FREE Class

In this class, we will connect the dots between key Yoga philosophy topics and what recent research in the west has discovered. Understand the science behind mind-body health and the integration of ancient wisdom and modern psychology.

Designed for you – Yoga teachers and mental health providers – walk away with some key tips to bring to your classes, clients and patients. Like how to read posture and behaviors to give your students/patients what they really need to create a shift. If you are a Yoga teacher, mental health provider or practitioner in the health and wellness world asking the question of WHY behind the transformative practice of Yoga … then this class is for you.

Join us, and sign up for the live online class: The Integration of Yoga and Psychology … Wisdom Informs, Science Explains.


Now get excited!! Over the next 6 weeks we will cover:

  • Yoga practices & The nervous system structures
  • Gunas & Mental health
  • Yugas & Understanding ourselves/experience in time and space
  • Koshas & The different layers of self
  • Karma & How our thoughts, emotions, and actions impact our experience of self, other, and the/your world/environment
  • Samskara and Trauma
  • Klesha & Psychological afflictions
  • Presence & Practices to help bring you into the present moment
  • The 8 limbs & How they relate to everyday life, even if you aren’t living in an Ashram

PLUS … You’ll have access to us to ask questions during the live program and engage in the online community to help you deepen your experience of the material.

We’ve designed this program to be a combination of lecture/discussion with a question and answer opportunities, experiential practice, teaching guides, opportunities for challenging yourself to expand your comfort zone and engage in the community to share how your practice and teaching changes as you implement the new learning.


I’m sure you are wondering … “what does this program cost”?

Get over 6 hours with both of us!!! During our time we will discuss the items listed above live – so you’ll have the opportunity to ask questions and deepen your own study in an interactive style. Over the course, you’ll have exercises, handouts, and a private Facebook group to discuss how the material is changing you and impacting your students and clients.

AND … we’ll be jumping in and commenting, answering questions, and offering other tidbits of information pertinent to the topic of the week and expand on information brought up during the lectures.

PLUS … 31 Yoga Alliance non-contact CEUs!!!

You get all of this for 495.99! Yes!! Sign me up. I want more understanding and Yoga Knowledge


The course runs:

September 8 – October 13, 2020

4-5:15 pm MST for the live online classes

(all will be recorded for you to view on your own time as well)


Why pay us to teach you? Because together we have over 30 years of combined Yoga study and teaching experience. We have spent a long time building our understanding of these concepts and have applied them to our lives and 1,000s of students and clients in our own practices.

We know reaching students is an art and it takes knowledge to know how to say, explain, and present just the right bit of information at the right time to make an impact.

We both believe this information is important for our world and know you are part of the solution to creating a better future for us all.


Here’s a bit of information on both of us:

Sarah Klein, owner of Whole Health Lab, is a health/nutrition coach and a certified Yoga instructor. Her educational background is in Health Psychology, Human Development, Nutrition, Hormone Health and she has extensively studied Yoga. Sarah leads yoga and wellness retreats, runs online nutrition programs and Yoga teacher training programs. Sarah’s mission is to spread health, happiness, and yoga. You will recognize her passion for this mission the moment you meet her.

Dr. Stacy Reuille– Dupont is currently a licensed clinical psychologist, licensed addiction counselor, certified personal trainer, and formerly a group exercise instructor, yoga teacher, and fitness center owner. She has over 25 years of experience working in the fitness and wellness industry and over a decade working in traditional mental health clinics, integrated care environments, and building a successful private psychology practice.


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